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Getting a divorce can be devastating, whether you parted amicably or not – you still lost a part of yourself, and a part of your past. However, to help you heal, and be at peace with the new you, here are 5 tips for reinventing yourself after you have signed the papers.
Change the way you look
Of course, the first thing on the list has to be changing your appearance.
Changing your looks is all about boosting confidence. It is the easiest, quickest way to start feeling differently – simply because you look different.
You can start by going to the hair salon for a cut, or just a new color. Maybe you have wanted to try something new for a while, but were unsure how your partner would like it, therefore have shied away from it.
Additionally, you can change your wardrobe, freshen it up a bit with some new pieces to help boost your confidence. Going on a shopping spree will help with boosting your serotonin levels, too.
Try something new
There is no better time to try something that makes you get out of your comfort zone. Make a list of all the things you may have been too unsure to try in the past, and give them a go.
Maybe take up a new hobby. Learn a new skill. Explore what you like or don’t like by taking up something unexpected, like sword making, or bungee jumping. Or, simply enroll in classes of something you have been passionate about in the past – it is a great way to meet new people.
However, if you do not have time to go out and socialize, try a dating agency. Agencies like Blue Label Life will do the hard work for you, find you a partner based on your preferences, and present you with eligible partners whom you wouldn’t have had the chance to meet otherwise.
Rediscover yourself
This is a perfect time to rediscover yourself – your likes, your dislikes, what you want to try, or avoid. You must have had a pretty good idea of all that during your marriage, but might not have the full freedom to explore it. Try to remember yourself as you were before the marriage, and explore whether you still want to be that person, or want something completely different. Be truly honest with yourself about what you want going forward, to know exactly what you want from your next partner.
Let yourself be free
Stop worrying about what other people will say, or think about you. That kind of thinking has made a lot of people very miserable over time. You need to focus on yourself, and how to best carry on happily.
Being free means ridding yourself of trying to match people’s expectations. You no longer live your life for them, but for yourself.
Meet new people, try new things, dare to explore your sexuality. Do not be afraid to say what you like, or how you like it. Start being brutally honest with both yourself and your surroundings.
Those who do not like the new you, should stay in the past, with the old you.
Don’t settle
With this newfound confidence, set your boundaries, and hold onto them. Be very specific, to yourself first and then to your future partner, how you want to be treated, what you think you deserve, and do not dare settle for anything less.
Do you want to travel and not be a couch potato? Maybe you want to be complimented a lot, and reassured about your partner’s feelings. Great – be very clear about it upfront. Do not waste time for either yourself or your prospective partner.
You deserve to be happy. Unapologetically.
Going through a divorce can be a tough time for anybody. It is not easy, but it is also not hopeless. We hope these tips help you be a happier version of yourself.
