A better marriage means a happier you and also a happier family. The key to this is often better communication. So, how do you improve how you communicate – read on to find out.
Respect is key.
You would think dealing with one another respectfully would be an issue of common sense, but unfortunately, many of us forget to do so along the way. It isn't necessarily done intentionally, and may simply occur because two people begin to take one another for granted. The issue of respect goes both ways: Men are just as entitled to being treated respectfully as are women. There are no free passes on this simply because of your gender.
Once your partner sees that you are willing to treat him or her respectfully and are willing to make their needs a priority, you will find communication efforts between the two of you will become easier for both.
Love Notes Work
Don't you love it when you receive a love note from your spouse? Chances are, your spouse will love getting them too, so if it has been a while since you last did so, send them a simple text to let them know that you're thinking about them. Or you can go old-school and leave them a handwritten love note on their pillow or nightstand in the morning before leaving for work.
If your spouse takes their lunch to work with him, stick a cute note inside for them to find. Love notes like this are especially effective when they are written spontaneously for no particular reason. Unexpected gestures like this are a great way to get couples talking once again if the conversation has been lacking recently.
Don't forget to say “I love you”.
One of the best communication tips for couples is increasing how often you say “I love you” to the other person according to Clarity Clinic. You probably said this quite often at the beginning of the relationship, but over time couples begin to say it less often. It's not that they don't mean it any longer, it's just the way things naturally evolve over time in relationships. If you haven't been saying “I love you” to your spouse as often as you should, you can impact their entire demeanor simply by looking them in the eye and saying it.
This simple gesture will cause them to reevaluate their own feelings for you and as a result, they will recognize how much they love you and will start talking to you more often as a result. It's truly an easy way to improve the relationship dynamic between two people, and it doesn't cost you anything to implement. In fact, you should be doing it anyway. Let your spouse know that your feelings for them are as strong as ever, and you'll begin to find that communication between the two of you becomes easier and more intimate.
Talk About Happy Things
If there are subjects the two of you like to talk about, you should talk about them together. Whether it is political issues or job-related issues, or even the type of car you both like, make an effort to talk about these things with one another. You can't get this wrong as long as you're discussing issues that you both enjoy talking about.
However, try to expand your discussions beyond everyday issues like your children and their accomplishments. To really have an impact, try to steer conversations to subjects and issues that attracted you to one another in the first place. By focusing on issues that invoke feelings of happiness in one other, you will both be open to more meaningful conversations in the future.
Self Reflection is Key
Knowing who you are and understanding what that means to your life is important for both people to recognize. Couples, whether married or not, are partners in life who are devoted to one another who will be there for one another when needed, and sometimes it is necessary to engage in self-reflection so that each person understands what they mean to the other. To really make this hit home, try imagining how your life would be if the other person wasn't in it, then used these feelings to help improve your relationship with one another going forward.
Talk to me in the comments, please:
What are some ways you keep communication strong in your marriage?