Dealing with Homeschooler Critics


Homeschooling our kids is a personal decision that parents make for their children. I know in most cases that parents have a long list of reasons why they considered homeschooling in the first place. Parents strive to give their kids the best of everything, and that certainly starts with their education. So, how does a mother deal with negative feedback from well-meaning family members who are adamant that homeschooling your kids is the worst thing you could do?

You Don’t Have to Justify Your Decisions

First off, you technically do NOT have to explain your decision to homeschool your kids to anyone. God blessed you with your children because he knew you were the perfect fit for them.

The only requirement you have to do is abide by your state’s laws about homeschooling YOUR kids. Then you need to ensure that you teach your children the required subjects.

Best Reaction to Nay Sayers

I have learned through personal experience that sometimes the best defense is none at all. I know your instincts are telling you to argue the reasons why you want to homeschool. However, the people complaining will physically see the positive impacts homeschooling your children will have on them.

Dealing with Homeschooler Critics is never easy to do, but you can handle them with these tips.

My Homeschooling Back Story

I remember when I first started homeschooling my kids my in-laws weren’t overly joyed by the idea and concept one bit. I even sent my oldest to a few private schools and a public school to prove my point. My child was miserable in all of those settings for a long list of reasons. When my middle child was old enough to go to school, I sent him and my oldest to the public school.

The public school was a JOKE! My kids learned next to nothing except how to be disrespectful little brats. They weren’t held accountable for not doing homework or work at all. After the second week of school, I had reached my breaking point because I knew I could provide them a better education at home! I took my mother–in-law with me, and we snuck into our oldest classroom. What we saw made her quickly get on the homeschool bandwagon!

The kids were throwing spitballs, climbing desks, and running all over the room. My oldest was right there in the mix misbehaving. The worse part of the whole thing was the teacher was trying to teach over the complete nonsense. I know for a fact that teachers have limited abilities to discipline or maintain their classrooms. However, it’s evident that she just gave up completely.

Fast Forward to Today

Within a year after that incident, my in-laws took on homeschooling my niece. Now they are proudly helping her graduate at age 16. That’s one of the biggest perks to homeschooling! Your children can accomplish things at their pace. Plus, they can pursue topics that interest them the most.

Extreme Benefit of Homeschooling

I know of many homeschoolers who have started their businesses. Kids can pursue things that interest them because they have the TIME and energy to do it. In most cases, there is a way to incorporate all of the required subjects and topics based on their interests. If they start their own business, then it truly opens up a new world for our kids.

If a homeschooler doesn’t want to own their own business, then they have the chance to gain dual credit in both high school and college courses at the same time. I know that this can be done in public schools too, but it’s much harder because their workload is bigger in most cases.

Your kids are usually more behaved compared those who attend the corruption grounded schools. I have had MANY people compliment my children for being well manner. They have even earned money from strangers because they have been respectful and courteous of those around them.


As you can tell, there is an extensive list of reasons why homeschooling kids are worth doing. Let the critics criticize, and let your kids’ knowledge and respectful manners speak for themselves. Like anything else, there are going to be periods when you doubt your decisions because of rough patches on this homeschooling journey. You’re going to have good and bad years. Don’t let those periods discourage your parenting skills. Homeschooling is just taking our parenting roles to an advanced level.

Talk to me in the comments please:

What advice would you add to this post?

Did this post help you to have the confidence to stick to your decision to homeschool your kids?


    • Lauren,

      Thank you for voicing your thoughts and sharing a wonderful example of how homeschooling can be beneficial. I do agree with you that it’s not always a solid fit.

      Thank you for stopping by and commenting. I hope to see you again soon.

  1. I’ve been pretty fortunate that even in a family full of public school teachers, I’ve not run into much resistance about homeschooling our kids. It probably helps that we live in an undeniably awful district. I am often asked about the social issue. But, like you mentioned, if mine were in school, I’m sure they’d be right there in the middle of the misbehavior!

    • I’m glad to hear that your family supports you. I also live in an area that isn’t known for a good school.

      I agree with you the social issues is actually a NONE issue.

      Thank you for stopping by and commenting. I hope to see you again soon.

  2. I love your post! I plan on homeschooling my 3 yearl old. However, I have to say homeschooling begins the day they are born. I find it ridiculous for people to snub there noses at the thought of homeschooling when they want “teach” their children right from wrong. As parents our children learn from us daily, whether it be good or bad.
    I have experienced strangers opinions of my choice to even home Pre-school my daughter and all I can do is laugh.

    • I love your argument about this! I agree with you 110%. Congrats on sticking to your decision. There are so many resources to teach kids for free.

      Thank you for stopping by and commenting. I hope to see you again soon.

  3. Peachy is only 16 months old so we’re not homeschooling. It’s an interesting idea. I just don’t know if I have what it takes. I don’t know if I’m confident that I can provide her with everything she would get at regular school. I do agree with you that kids pick up some bad habits and attitudes from other kids at school. That’s not something I look forward to. We do have a way to go before our school days and some time to think things through.
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    • Trust me you have what it takes to teach your kids. Your MOMMMA! You’re going to teach them a wide range of things in their life. Teaching them school isn’t any different. If you’re afraid of not knowing enough, learn it all over WITH them. Trust me, I’ve had to do that quite a bit through the years. Just giving you added food for thought. What you decide is entirely yours, and you’ll still be an AMAZING mom regardless. I’m not saying you’re a terrible parent should you decide to send them to public school. If I had good schools here, I’d send mine there in a heartbeat.

      Thank you for stopping by and commenting. I hope to see you again soon.

  4. I love it!
    I think the biggest challenge really is that we want to respond and try to justify ourselves to complete critics. Learning to make no defense is a challenge.
    I was homeschooled and heard plenty of flack. I’m sure I will hear the same for my children as well. Can’t say that I really care lol
    Thanks for linking up at Living Proverbs 31!

    • I’m glad that you pointed out that you can see how hard it is to keep your mouth shut. I’m glad to hear that all of the things you’ve heard growing up didn’t keep you from wanting to do it for your kids.

      Thank you for stopping by and commenting. I hope to see you again soon.


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